Thank you for writing this book! What I found most engaging was the way the book spoke to me as an adult as well. It was refreshing to read about thought and thought patterning that could be focused on anyone, not just teenage boys. I enjoyed the characters created to illustrate roles and behaviour. I especially love the explanation of the subconscious plan. It was continually referenced throughout the manuscript which I thought was brilliant as it reinforced the concept. I laughed about the mind being like a google search engine - ha! Great analogy and so on-point.
I decided to read this book with my 15 year old son, which was a fantastic idea. We read one to two chapters per evening and discussed each one afterwards. It was a great way to connect with him and we both learned so much! This book is wonderful not just for teens, but for people of all ages. We found the 60-Second Reader sections at the end of the chapters to be a great way to summarize and review each chapter. I highly recommend reading this book WITH your teen!
Jacqui and Joseph explain, in ways that make it easy to understand, how the mind works, how your feelings are affected by your thoughts and past experiences, and how your unique brain perceives and processes them. They offer techniques that are empowering. I noticed my son taking deep breaths today while closing his eyes when he was feeling overwhelmed and frustrated. He took the time to process his frustrations and was able to communicate with me in such a mature way afterwards.
I am so grateful to have had this experience and I will certainly recommend this book to others and purchase copies as gifts. I will be ordering the one for teen girls for my daughters who are in their young twenties. Thank you Jacqui & Joseph!
This book is loaded with lots of great information to help young men understand things about how their minds work, and provides resources to help them deal with behaviors that may be overwhelming for them and their loved ones. Highly recommended for young men and their loved ones to read to gain insight into how the brain works and how to understand it.
I highly recommend this book to anyone with a teen boy in their life. Its engaging for an adult, or teen to read and learn from. This books explanations of why we have our mindsets, how they can be negatively influenced, and how easily one can change their daily mindset is easy to understand. The science provided to further educate the reader is also detailed in a wonderfully simplistic way. As a parent and healthcare worker, I was engaged and learning from every paragraph. I am confident that my 15 year old son will as well. After reading this, I feel hopeful and excited to help support him with resetting his daily mindset to help manage his ADHD, and in his high level competitive athletics. I feel that this book would be beneficial for anyone with a preteen/teen boy in their life - parents, grandparents, teachers, sports coaches, etc. This book will help the teenage boy in your life, help himself.
I'm delighted to give high marks for this helpful book!
I’ve long suggested the original version to parents of adolescent girls, so I’m very happy that this much-needed new version for adolescent boys is now available. As a former teacher of teens and a personal counselor and coach, I'm sure adolescents of the male persuasion will greatly benefit from reading and discussing this new book with their parents. The included thought exercises will surely spark productive conversations about confusing feelings on the part of both parents and their offspring)!
From my experience teaching child and adolescent development, I know the teen brain is rewiring itself at light speed, so it's very difficult for young folks to understand what's happening inside their own psyches. “I Would But My Damn Mind Won’t Let Me” is structured in a way that will capture interest immediately and offer an entry point for conversation. It can be used as a catalyst for productive interactions as sons and parents read and discuss it together. Most helpful in my opinion will be the case studies, since stories about others are always good ice-breakers to get reluctant participants involved.
If I were the parent of a teen boy, I'd want to have this book in my arsenal of tools for myself - and for helping them navigate the rough road of evolving emotional regulation.